Tag: masculinity

youdontevenliarliar:

bogleech:

“My masculinity is NOT fragile!!! I’ll prove it!!!! I’ll BEAT UP WOMEN!!!!”

Your “masculinity” IS fragile if you get upset so easily when it is questioned and react by challenging people to fights.

Could a person be more insecure and less self-aware?

Insecure man: Question my manhood and I’ll kick your ass. Hell I’ll kick my own ass if I doubt myself.

officiallesbians:

“Clothes don’t have genders!!! Anyone can wear whatever they want regardless of their gender!!!”

*sees a cartoon boy wearing a dress 1x for fun which promotes positive visibility for rl GNC/gay boys*

“HES RLY A GIRL!!! HES A TRANSGIRL FOR BEING GNC IN ANY SHAPE OR FORM!!!! GNC BOYS ARE REALLY TRANS GIRLS!!!!!!”

It’s also stupid because Steven breaks masculine gender roles with his actions not his clothes.

sukoot:

Attention to the meaning of the central male slang term for sexual intercourse—"fuck"— is instructive. To fuck a woman is to have sex with her. To fuck someone in another context… means to hurt or cheat a person. And when hurled as a simple insult (“fuck you”) the intent is denigration and the remark is often a prelude to violence or the threat of violence. Sex in patriarchy is fucking. That we live in a world in which people continue to use the same word for sex and violence, and then resist the notion that sex is routinely violent and claim to be outraged when sex becomes overtly violent, is testament to the power of patriarchy.

bell hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love.

butchcommunist:

Masculinity and femininity are both oppressive to women, both intended to be enacted for the benefit of men no matter who performs them, and both integral parts of institutional heterosexuality (otherwise known as just heterosexuality). Gender is a system which is built fundamentally on harming and marginalizing women and for us there can never be safety within its confines.

Masculinity and femininity are equally fragile, and their frailty shows most at the point of sexuality- that is, boyfriend jeans and men not wanting to wear pink are halves of the same coin, not separate homophobic phenomena.

cranky-old-witch:

wombynprivilege:

I hate the terms “toxic masculinity” and “hyper masculinity” when they’re used to criticize masculinity, as if masculinity is only harmful in excess rather than being an inherently harmful construct (along with femininity/gender) used to ensure male supremacy and oppress women. Liberals love weak pseudo analyses and criticisms that may seem subversive but don’t actually make a dent in the status quo at all ^_^

It also paints men as passive victims of masculinity and therefore patriarchy, instead of the perpetrators of it

wombynprivilege:

witwitch:

bungrrrl:

fuckterfs:

why do radfems say male socialization instead of male privilege

Male socialization is what causes male privilege. Socialization is the process from which you learn your role in society. Privilege is the benefits you receive from that role.

Yeah, socialization describes how society “raises” you.

when someone has the url fuckterfs and doesnt even know basic parts of the ideology theyre so against 😭 gender socialization is literally EVEN MAINSTREAM feminism 101

Feminist lesson so listen up: male socialisation and male privilege are linked but aren’t the same exact same concepts.

Males are socialised into male privilege (and no, there is no opt out just because transmales want to distance themselves from masculinity and don’t want to be referred to as men that’s not how socialisation or privilege works).

The way little boys are treated to little girls is often preferential and less restrictive which is male privilege and they learn that they are entitled to take up more space, be louder and prouder than girls etc. There has been plenty of feminist and non-feminist research and writing on this, you should already be aware of this. Boys learn this behaviour and it shapes them to believe they are higher than women and girls. This obviously has drastically negative effects on women and girls.

Growing up as a girl I can remember the double standards boys would pull on girls. I remember how they would bully girls but girls did not bully the boys because they were in a position to fight back and reporting it was useless. This is all apart of how girls and boys are socialised and how boys (who grow up to be men) take advantage of the advantages they had and the disadvantages placed on girls which is an expression of male privilege.

So to put it simply male socialisation is the theory and male privilege is the practice.

I remember when some teenage boys often harassed me would call me a whore for ignoring them. They would do this even though we were all wearing the same uni sex sports uniform. At the same time girls didn’t gather in groups to harass boys.

What does this tell you? Do you think the uniform was the reason they were harassing me or was it because I am female and they are misogynists?

sazquatch:

I consume a lot of problematic media (who doesn’t, tbh), and the biggest gripe I have, is that men who display all the elements of toxic masculinity are consistently, consistently presented as having a heart’o’gold, as meaning well and being genuinely good and kind and sympathetic, underneath it all.

It’s just constantly normalising and creating appeal in characteristics which in reality, result in violent hatred of women and other marginalised groups. Men who treat women as objects, who are insecure and shackled to their masculinity, who solve situations with violence and/or machismo, they’re not generally big ol softies underneath it all, they’re not men who need my sympathy or understanding. Realistically, they’re the type of men that don’t care if they hurt you, because they don’t have a full understanding of your humanity.

And at the end of the day, I can’t stand to see women denied their humanity, whilst the worst kinds of men are glorified as good guys.