I’m curious to hear your response to a point a friend of mine argued the other day about a distaste for some feminist’s opposition to #notallmen. He argued that feminists who regard all men as potential problems are akin to people who see all Muslims are terrorists. What do you think about this statement?

fuckyeah-radicalfeminism:

I feel like your friend is being a little bit disingenuous in co-opting the struggle of Muslims by using this comparison. Saying that Muslims should not be trusted because of the actions of a very few is not at all like saying that men should not be trusted because of the actions of a majority.

The vast majority of Muslims are not terrorists. The vast majority of Muslims are not socialised to be terrorists. But the vast majority of men – who are socialised into the dominant sex role from birth – DO watch porn, use misogynistic language about women, laugh at or participate in the telling of rape jokes and regard women as naturally inferior in certain ways (both consciously and subconsciously).

The fact that so many women have experienced harassment and sexual assault – official estimates tend to say one in four, which is terrifying in itself, but I’d say that without exaggeration, every single woman I know has had a sexual experience in which they were unwilling or felt they were pressured not to say “no”, even if they don’t recognise it as assault, and this is probably similar for other women and their acquaintances – is also a pretty enormous contributing factor in essentially not trusting the average man.

Do you see a similar sort of Muslim/non-Muslim hierarchy in which most non-Muslims have been abused and targeted by Muslims purely by virtue of their not being Muslims? No.

mautlin:

noanodyne:

Born females don’t perform stereotypical femininity because of their female brains, they do it because the patriarchy has sequestered their “choices” into one tiny little box of options and punishes them when they don’t choose from that box.

(same goes for bio males pressured into performing ‘masculinity’) 

Masculinity benefits men it is the justification for men’s higher status. Masculinity needs to go but men need to take responsibility for creating, perpetuating it and and benefiting from it.