So this is it? You’re just leaving? After everything we’ve been through, after everything we’ve shared, you’re just going to walk out of here as if it all meant nothing. I can’t believe you can stand there and tell me it’s over. How can you suddenly say I’m not good enough for you, just because I’ve been distant and emotionally abusive for the past several years?
I don’t even understand where this is coming from. I’ve been nothing but cold and unsupportive, and now, out of nowhere, you say you’re done with me.
Tell me, what’s changed? I’m still the same aloof and manipulative man you met years ago. Everything—absolutely everything—I do is as self-serving now as it has been since the day we met. My God, what am I supposed to do here? I really thought you were the woman whose emotions I was going to exploit for the rest of my life.
Tag: men
I’ve been thinking about how I rarely ever hear any female-attracted men mention that they love women. As in, one of them just bursting out in how much they adore women.
I’ve legit heard many more gay men say that they really love women (Platonically, of course) than any straight man or even bi man. I think I’ve heard like. Three female-attracted men mention how much they love women in a way that’s actually loving, like genuine love. In my entire life, not just tumblr.
Instead… I hear SO MANY female-attracted men say how stupid women are, how ridiculous we are, how even repulsive we are to them when we’re not serving them as pretty fuckholes and even while they’re using us like that they can still spew how much they hate us. And yes, this includes MGA men, I’ve seen it in pretty much the same fashion.
However, in society, men’s attraction to women is seen as healthy, as natural, as normal, as good.
But whose attraction to women is universally seen as gross, predatory, repulsive, creepy, unhealthy?
Women’s.
And the thing here is that, there isn’t a day in lesbian tumblr in which I don’t see at least ONE post being reblogged by all the lesbians I follow about how much they love girls, how amazing, how beautiful, how great, sexy, strong, adorable, breathtaking, fun, admirable women are. We literally can’t shut up about it when we feel we’re safe enough to express it.
When I thought I was bi I remember bi/pan-girl tumblr being similar.
It’s already sad enough that society at large (Including straight women) thinks of us as being the gross predatory ones.
But the real saddest thing is that we believe it too. We’ve been taught that all our lives and it’s so hard to unlearn it. I still can’t truly unlearn it even though I know all this in a rational way.
Omg my fucking QUEEN.
If you are interested in the liberation of women, you’ll find that the biggest barrier to this is men: men as a class. I used to think, “I don’t hate all men.” I had therapy and everything. Now, I think that any intelligent woman hates men. There are very few problems in the world that don’t have, at the root of them, male violence and woman-hating.
Suzanne Moore (via rad-femmes)
they took the hair on our legs and decided it was a shameful, disgusting thing
they said nothing about their own leg hair
they took our genitals and decided it was an ugly, disgusting and shameful thing, only good enough for them to use for their pleasure
they praised their own genitals and drew them on every corner of this planet
they took our bodies and decided they have to be fragile, small and easy to objectify, or we aren’t worth as human beings anymore
they keep their human value no matter what they look like
they took our periods, neglecting they were all born from them, and decided they were gross and shameful thing, not even to be mentioned in their presence
all pain they have to go through is over-dramatized and talked about constantly
they took our clothes and made it uncomfortable, see through, impractical, revealing, objectifying
then they accused us of distracting them when we wear it, accused us of asking for unwanted touch and abuse when they feel entitled to our bodies
they set us up in a trap then laughed at us for suffering inside of it
they never intended to acknowledge our pain
what’s been done to us is “life”, according to them
what they do to each other is “our fault”, according to them
we’ve been used as scapegoats for their own faults
we’ve been used as toys for their pleasure and satisfaction
we’ve been used as trophies for them to show off their importance
it was enough
I had enough.
“[Men] come to me or to other feminists and say: ‘What you’re saying about men isn’t true. It isn’t true of me. I don’t feel that way. I’m opposed to all of this.’ And I say: don’t tell me. Tell the pornographers. Tell the pimps. Tell the warmakers. Tell the rape apologists and the rape celebrationists and the pro-rape ideologues. Tell the novelists who think that rape is wonderful. Tell Larry Flynt. Tell Hugh Hefner. There’s no point in telling me. I’m only a woman. There’s nothing I can do about it. These men presume to speak for you. They are in the public arena saying that they represent you. If they don’t, then you had better let them know. “
— Andrea Dworkin, “I Want a Twenty-Four-Hour Truce During Which There Is No Rape”Join us in celebration of Andrea Dworkin Legacy Day. Share her work far and wide!
http://ift.tt/1RXr2Au http://ift.tt/1oLT2iaif you’re “not one of those men”, why don’t you go and prove it instead of expecting praise from women for maybe being a decent human being…..
Andrea tells it like it is. Rest in Power, sister
putting aside the fact that it is blatantly wrong on like 7 million different levels and simply does not work, pushing the idea that women can change men and make men stop being misogynists by being in relationships with men, or raising boys to not be misogynists, is just downright harmful, excuses men of their behavior, puts the burden on women, pretends women have power over men, and blames women for misogyny, not even to mention how it blatantly ignores how women have been attempting this forever with no success, and pretty much states that women thought history just didn’t want to end misogyny, or didn’t try hard enough. I don’t even want to get in to how it encourages women to stay in abusive relationships. Basically, do not push these sort of beliefs, not just as feminism, but at all.
It’s not our job to change men.
They need to take that upon themselves.
Celtyradfem 