Or you could get a job be independent not rely on some guy 20+ years older than you to pay your way…date a guy your own age and who respects you and not be a total harlot….*shrugs* just me who wants that? guess so…
“I only date boys my age because I like to have have sex for free in the back of a Honda at the end of our McDonald’s date and then get called a slut by him and all his friends. You dirty sluts actually charge for something I give away for free? Disgraceful…”
“Occasionally he sneaks me into his parents house and we fuck quietly in his twin size bed on top of a pile of dirty laundry his mom hasn’t gotten around to washing, he gives me half a poptart and sends me on my way before his parents wake up”
lmao ew
💀💀💀💀💀
Deceased.
Yall gone learn to stop slutshaming SBs
We coming for your throat tbh.
💀☠️☠️💀💀
I’m here for all a dis
I wonder how many of these women defending the pursuit of “sugar daddies” call themselves feminists. There is literally nothing feminist about forsaking your own autonomy to essentially “sell” your body in exchange for financial security. Women who enter into these types of relationships are setting themselves up for lifelong dependency. Thus, putting themselves in a position where they are vulnerable to exploitation.
Sugar daddy culture has become so mainstream on tumblr and twitter there is a whole generation of young girls being told by adult women that since it is tough to make it as a woman in the professional world and men already see you as a piece of meat then you can just use that to your advantage – absolutely disgusting and regressive, just to think that feminists in past centuries did so much for us and educated women betray their memory in such a way…
I have been solicited at least three times (I turned them all down) and it is not sexy fun adventure it is dehumanising.
Young women and girls are being groomed into being prostitutes instead of actually doing something of value and the culture and media conspires to make sure there are young women sexually available for male consumption.
Tumblr leftists hate capitalism and criticize every aspect of it, but somehow the sex industry is exempt from their criticisms. We hear about how capitalism impoverishes people and then exploits the world’s most vulnerable groups, but somehow, an industry where men can buy women’s bodies for their use isn’t an issue. Somehow, large zones of the world being impoverished via colonialism/neo colonialism, women being hit the hardest (more of the world’s poor are women than men), and some of these women then being forced to enter wealthier zones of the world where men there will abuse them with impunity isn’t a problem. And anyone who says it is is somehow wrong. Like if anyone has been commenting on these sorts of things, feel free to send that my way, but mostly I see leftists here attacking capitalism and then turning around and whining that anyone who criticizes sex work as a concept (due to the specific kind of exploitation inherent in it) or the sex industry is a SWERF or something. Like if you’re not willing to criticize one of the most evil situations the neo-liberal global capitalist economy has produced, then obviously you’re just another garden-variety misogynist apathetic to the suffering of women hiding it behind virtue-signalling tumblr arguments.
I think this sort of thing is also an indication of the misogyny, racism, xenophobia (not to mention a lack of understanding of the impacts of colonialism and neo colonialism) that plagues many leftist groups and many online leftist communities more particularly (but not necessarily limited to) those based in the west
I attended the funeral today of a woman I worked the red-light district with back in the early nineties. She was a good friend of mine. We’d been in residential care together and I knew her from when I was fourteen years old. We don’t have an official cause of death yet and won’t until the return of the toxicology report. She was thirty-nine.
What angers me the most is that, whatever they write on her death cert, it will not be true. They’ll say it was heroin, or cocaine, or whatever other substance or combination of substances could be found in her system but I know it was none of those things. I know that because I remember the person she was before prostitution and the damage it did her, and drug addiction was just a by-product of that. She’d never taken a drug in her life before prostitution.
So yeah, the doctors will break down the chemicals found in her system and their verdict will en up on her death cert, but when the coroner authenticates the cause of death and writes ‘accidental’ or ‘misadventure’ or ‘toxic poisoning’, I will know that is not true. How many women have died now, I wonder, because of a form of compensated sexual abuse that caused myriad forms of injury which initiated a chain of events that led directly to their deaths?
It is time the coroners of the world started recording ‘death by prostitution’.
Editor’s Note: The following story contains graphic images that may be disturbing to some readers
Bangladesh is one of the few Muslim countries where prostitution is legal. The district of Tangail is home to Kandapara brothel, the oldest and second largest brothel in the country where it has existed for the last 200 years.
The Kandapara brothel
Though it was demolished in 2014, many women who grew up there didn’t know where else to go after it disappeared, so it was restarted again with the help of local NGOs. German-based photojournalist Sandra Hoyn recently went to Kandapara to document the inside of the walled city. She shared what she saw with NextShark via email.
“The brothel is like its own microcosm, it is a city in a city.” Hoyn told NextShark. “In the narrow streets, there are food stalls, tea shops and street vendors. I spent every day from morning till evening in the brothel and some days I forgot where I was. It was sometimes like everyday life in another city with it’s own rules.”
Sex workers in Bangladesh are not treated like normal citizens — they have no freedom or human rights. Girls often come from poverty and are usually victims of trafficking. They are owned by a madam, must pay debts and are not allowed to go outside or keep the money they make.
Meghla, 23, with a customer in the Kandapara brothel in Tangail. She started working for a garment factory when she was 12 years old. There, she met a man who promised her a better job with more money. He sold her into a brothel.
Asma, 14, with a customer. She was born int the Kandapara brothel in Tangail. Asma stopped attending school when the students harassed her because her mother worked as a sexworker in the brothel. She started as a sex worker when she was 14 years old. Before that, she danced in front of customers
Once their debt is repaid, which could take up to five years, they become independent sex workers and are allowed to start refusing customers.
“From the moment that a woman has paid her debts, she is free to leave the brothel.” she said. “But these women are socially stigmatized outside their ‘homes’ and thus often choose to stay and continue supporting their families with their earnings.”
During the first week of her arrival, Hoyn didn’t take any photos and simply walked around with a translator to observe and talk to locals.
Kajol with her 6-month-old baby Mehedi and a customer on her bed. She thinks she is 17, but does not know her exact age. She was married at 9 years old. Her aunt sold her to the Kandapara brothel. Two weeks after the birth, she was forced to have sex again with customers. Because of the baby, her business is not so good.
“At the beginning it was difficult to get access to the women and customers. Some customers didn’t want to be in the photographs, especially those with a rich family. But other customers didn’t care at all about it. Some told me they want to “refresh their mind” inside the brothel and there is nothing wrong with it, so why should they hide?
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Pakhi, 15, with a customer in her room in the Kandapara brothel. She’s lived in the brothel since she was 14. She got married at 12 and ran away shortly after. A man picked her off the street and sold her into a brothel
“Some girls hide their face and didn’t want to tell their stories, others have been very open and wanted to tell about their life.”
The price of the service depends on the age and beauty of each girl, as well as how nice their rooms are. Kandapara’s sex workers earn between 1000-2000 Taka ($11 – 22) daily, which is around 300 Taka ($3) per customer.
Sumaiya, 17, with her boyfriend and regular customer Titu, 23, in the Kandapara brothel in Tangail. He is from Dhaka and visits her every month for one week.
Sumaiya gets beaten in the face by Titu. They are often fighting because Titu wants to marry her, but she refuses. She is afraid that after marriage he will take away all her money. He is jealous because she has sex with many of his friends. Sumaiya is jealous because he has sex with other sexworkers in the brothel.
“Most of them have sad stories — but they are really strong, at least outwardly. I admire that they manage their lives under these circumstances and do not give up. They are not just survivors or victims, they are fighting and enjoying their life in their own way.”
Bonna, 27, a sexworker in the Kandapara brothel, is laughing with a condom in her hand. When she was 7 years old, she was raped by her stepfather. She ran away from home at 10 and a man picked her off the street and sold her into a brothel. She has two regular customers. On average, she earns 1500 Taka (19 $) per day.
“When the women have free time, they danced and laughed together. They are joking with each other, kidding the customers. The girls are very lively and cheerful. Often they forget their sadness. They still have dreams.”
Papia, 18, with two customers on the bed in the Kandapara brothel. Her parents died when she was a child and she was married young. She and her husband began doing heroin until she was put in jail. She says that the jail was the best place she has ever been because nobody beats her there. In the jail she got to know a woman who later brought her to the brothel.
“Most women have the dream to earn enough money in the brothel to buy their own house outside when they are old, and they want to not be dependent on men. They want to earn enough money to give their children a good school education at least. They want them to have a better future than they did.
Priya, 19, is teasing a friend by trying to beat him, but not seriously.
“Many women have their ‘boyfriends,’ or regular customers who pay them. I know one woman who has turned down the marriage proposals of her most faithful client because she doesn’t trust that he will let her keep her money. She’d rather maintain her independence as a sex worker.
Used condoms outside the Kandapara brothel in Tangail.
“I met a woman in the brothel, she worked in a garment factory before. There she met a woman who told her about a more lucrative job. On her own wish, she started working in the brothel and doesn´t want to leave because it´s a good place to earn money, she says.”
Dipa, 26 years, is crying. She is in the second month pregnant from a customer in the Kandapara brothel in Tangail.
The two oldest professions, farming and prostitution, both required hoes.
Farming was actually invented by women, and in the beginning, before the invention of the hoe, they farmed by digging the earth with digging stick. So farming predates the hoe.
Coercing a woman into unwanted sex (i.e. rape) by exploiting her poverty or hunger, though, it’s a male invention, and does require being a huge tool.
Shrews filling pamphlets with stickers and prostitution facts in Melbourne
Did anyone one stop and think that making prostitution illegal, all you do is push it further and further into the black market, and the best way to combat abuse is to decriminalize, legalize, and regulate prostitution?
@pfcanimal did you stop and think that we’re going to make it so you can’t jack off to women’s suffering anymore?
@pfcanimal that isn’t true.
Legalisation opens up a black market along side the legal market and both are abusive and exploitative.
Prostituted women who don’t make the legal requirements will find themselves in the illegal sector and illegal and unethical things happen in the legal sector.
You give pimps/sex traffickers the greenlight when you legalise or decriminalise it.
Any given man can pimp out his girlfriend, wife even his daughter under legalisation and decriminalisation
Look at the relight district in Amsterdam the police admit they can’t control sex trafficking and Germany is considered the brothel of Europe (the majority of prostituted women are not from Germany so what does that tell you?)
Since the French law to reduce sex trafficking was enacted a year ago, 937 people have been arrested for buying sex, according to the Coalition for the Abolition of Prostitution (CAP), which consists of 18 global charities providing support to victims of sexual exploitation.
“Sex buyers are now recognised as people who sexually exploit women in vulnerable situations with their financial power,” said CAP Chief Executive Gregoire Thery in a phone interview with the Thomson Reuters Foundation.
“The aim is to reduce the scale of prostitution, pimping and trafficking in France. To remove the repression of victims, and remove the impunity of the exploiters.”
Thery said there are between 30,000 and 40,000 sex workers in France – nearly 90 percent of them are victims of human trafficking, mainly from Bulgaria, Romania, China and Nigeria.
why is prostitution the only women’s issue where feminists are like “the world sucks it’s gonna exist no matter what we do… so better embrace it!”
like u don’t say that about any other women’s issues?? when domestic violence was basically legalized in russia y’all weren’t like “makes SENSE gonna happen REGARdLESS” yall said it’s fucking disgusting to normalize violence against women & not do everything we can to stop it
Celtyradfem 