Tag: rape culture

spo-od:

sensitivegirl1998:

from a post on my college’s confessional page, i thought it was a really good vocalization of some of the issues with the sex posi movement/bdsm/kink

Mate I somehow don’t think that Greg and Cara from down the road getting freaky in the bedroom needs content from a rape victim.

If you don’t want to do that shit during sex then don’t, if others do it’s between them. Fuck off telling people how they can and can’t fuck

Dude she’s saying this because Greg is going to rape Cara then say “she consented” even if she cries

“you don’t want to do that shit during sex then don’t”

You’re missing the point about rape

“If others do it’s between them.”

The ‘behind closed doors’ is used to excuse domestic violence. It isn’t surprising that you use it to defend sexual violence

“Fuck off telling people how they can and can’t fuck”

Stop telling rape and sexual assault victims not to criticise scumbags who sexual their trauma to get off

If you get off on someone’s pain and trauma you at the very least owe them an explanation

spo-od:

sensitivegirl1998:

from a post on my college’s confessional page, i thought it was a really good vocalization of some of the issues with the sex posi movement/bdsm/kink

Mate I somehow don’t think that Greg and Cara from down the road getting freaky in the bedroom needs content from a rape victim.

If you don’t want to do that shit during sex then don’t, if others do it’s between them. Fuck off telling people how they can and can’t fuck

Dude she’s saying this because Greg is going to rape Cara then say “she consented” even if she cries

“you don’t want to do that shit during sex then don’t”

You’re missing the point about rape

“If others do it’s between them.”

The ‘behind closed doors’ is used to excuse domestic violence. It isn’t surprising that you use it to defend sexual violence

“Fuck off telling people how they can and can’t fuck”

Stop telling rape and sexual assault victims not to criticise scumbags who sexual their trauma to get off

If you get off on someone’s pain and trauma you at the very least owe them an explanation

Most of the women in my military rape group are

billyflood:

rudelyfe:

Black women ……

This needs to be boosted. Black women are ignored and silenced in many areas but it is really a problem when it comes to victimization in sexual assault. The “strong black woman” trope allows black women to be ignored when it comes to aid and care. They need us fam. Black women aren’t superheroes, they aren’t magic, they are human beings, and need help and respect. Stop sexual assaults and help the black woman!

Most of the women in my military rape group are

billyflood:

rudelyfe:

Black women ……

This needs to be boosted. Black women are ignored and silenced in many areas but it is really a problem when it comes to victimization in sexual assault. The “strong black woman” trope allows black women to be ignored when it comes to aid and care. They need us fam. Black women aren’t superheroes, they aren’t magic, they are human beings, and need help and respect. Stop sexual assaults and help the black woman!

In NCSF survey results: joining BDSM Scene makes you 50% more likely to be raped than staying the hell away from it

tejuina:

maymay:

The National Coalition of Sexual Freedom (NCSF), a BDSM Scene front (i.e., public relations) group, recently published results from a survey about consent. According to the group’s Executive Director and recently-hired FetLife.com Community Manager, Susan Wright, one of its key findings is that, in her own words, “over 30 percent of [over 5,000 respondents] have had their previously negotiated limit violated.”

For a community that proclaims itself to generally be a safer place to explore sexuality than the traditional (“vanilla”) populace, a community whose entire foundational ethos is “safe, sane, consensual,” this is kind of a disaster.

Thomas Millar put it this way:

So…this is very, very bad. Of kinksters responding to this question, 30% had had a prenegotiated limit violated. Those numbers are even worse than victim self-reports of rape in the general population; which the New York Times reports as about 20% based on a study supported by the National Institute of Justice.

Communities ostensibly based on consent, with more consent violations than the general population.

If both the 20% figure from the Times’ report Thomas cites and the NCSF’s own survey results are accurate, and they may not be exact for many possible reasons, then there are 50% more consent violations in the BDSM Scene than elsewhere.

In other words, that’s a 50% increase in likelihood you will be sexually assaulted, and all you have to do is join the BDSM community.

Enjoy your next munch.

and this is only taking into account “previously negotiated limits.” it’s not addressing the fact that many “subs” are groomed into doing bdsm, how “doms” specifically prey on vulnerable populations (eg. rape survivors, especially young female survivors of csa), how a lot of those “previously negotiated limits” are beyond what anyone could consider healthy, etc.

In NCSF survey results: joining BDSM Scene makes you 50% more likely to be raped than staying the hell away from it

tejuina:

maymay:

The National Coalition of Sexual Freedom (NCSF), a BDSM Scene front (i.e., public relations) group, recently published results from a survey about consent. According to the group’s Executive Director and recently-hired FetLife.com Community Manager, Susan Wright, one of its key findings is that, in her own words, “over 30 percent of [over 5,000 respondents] have had their previously negotiated limit violated.”

For a community that proclaims itself to generally be a safer place to explore sexuality than the traditional (“vanilla”) populace, a community whose entire foundational ethos is “safe, sane, consensual,” this is kind of a disaster.

Thomas Millar put it this way:

So…this is very, very bad. Of kinksters responding to this question, 30% had had a prenegotiated limit violated. Those numbers are even worse than victim self-reports of rape in the general population; which the New York Times reports as about 20% based on a study supported by the National Institute of Justice.

Communities ostensibly based on consent, with more consent violations than the general population.

If both the 20% figure from the Times’ report Thomas cites and the NCSF’s own survey results are accurate, and they may not be exact for many possible reasons, then there are 50% more consent violations in the BDSM Scene than elsewhere.

In other words, that’s a 50% increase in likelihood you will be sexually assaulted, and all you have to do is join the BDSM community.

Enjoy your next munch.

and this is only taking into account “previously negotiated limits.” it’s not addressing the fact that many “subs” are groomed into doing bdsm, how “doms” specifically prey on vulnerable populations (eg. rape survivors, especially young female survivors of csa), how a lot of those “previously negotiated limits” are beyond what anyone could consider healthy, etc.