For a community that proclaims itself to generally be a safer place to explore sexuality than the traditional (“vanilla”) populace, a community whose entire foundational ethos is “safe, sane, consensual,” this is kind of a disaster.
So…this is very, very bad. Of kinksters responding to this question, 30% had had a prenegotiated limit violated. Those numbers are even worse than victim self-reports of rape in the general population; which the New York Times reports as about 20% based on a study supported by the National Institute of Justice.
Communities ostensibly based on consent, with more consent violations than the general population.
If both the 20% figure from the Times’ report Thomas cites and the NCSF’s own survey results are accurate, and they may not be exact for many possible reasons, then there are 50% more consent violations in the BDSM Scene than elsewhere.
In other words, that’s a 50% increase in likelihood you will be sexually assaulted, and all you have to do is join the BDSM community.
If everyone just took a moment and thought about it you’d realize that prostitution is just commercialized rape.
Saying it’s not a choice is taking away the individual’s agency. Prostitution is definitely one of the most exploitative situations for a very vulnerable population of who most, if not all, have faced severe trauma in their lives. Instead of supporting these individuals they’re shoved into bins we’d rather not think about and just painted with a brush of ‘disgusting’ but I still think equating that with rape is messy and not entirely fair. There may be sex workers who have experienced rape and define it as such, and there may be sex workers who differentiate this and won’t define themselves as having experienced rape.
89% of sex workers say they wish they could leave the industry but cannot, often due to their economic circumstances.
coercing someone to have sex is rape. money is coercion. therefore, in 89% of cases, prostitution absolutely is rape.
It’s not coercion it’s called a fucking job. You charge a price for a service. The customer gives you money for the service you willingly offer. Wtf is wrong with you guys??
If your comparing prostitution to rape because they don’t want to be doing it, then me working the drive thru is rape because i don’t like doing. Prostitution is a source of income for doing something as trivial as letting someone PAY TO FUCK THEM (or whatever other explicit services they might offer). Don’t hate on sex workers because no one wants to fuck you in the first place, let alone PAY YOU FOR IT.
did you really just compare your job at a restaurant to sex work? did you really just say that the job you’re not happy about is equal to rape? are you kidding me right now? I’m glad you’re reducing sex work to something “trivial.” you’re really helping advance the status of women. bravo.
Sex “positive” porn culture, everyone. Doing what they do best, literally trivializing rape.
“As trivial as”, NO! Physical integrity is NOT trivial! Rape is one of the worst crimes on earth BECAUSE physical integrity is so important to sentient beings.
You can hold the opinion that sexuality is overvalued, sure, but your physical integrity as an important component to our existence is a natural FACT. Having it violated is a big deal and very often leads to psychological trauma.
Shout out to all the people who will believe Bill Cosby is a rapist now that he admitted drugging women for sex, but didn’t believe 47 women when they said it. 👍 Thanks for nothing. #trustwomen
I trust facts. Not he said, she said.
OK, but what about he said, she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she said?
Facts = a man saying he did it. He said/she said = a woman saying he did it.
Shout out to all the people who will believe Bill Cosby is a rapist now that he admitted drugging women for sex, but didn’t believe 47 women when they said it. 👍 Thanks for nothing. #trustwomen
How many women’s testimonies are worth one man’s denial?
Shout out to all the people who will believe Bill Cosby is a rapist now that he admitted drugging women for sex, but didn’t believe 47 women when they said it. 👍 Thanks for nothing. #trustwomen
I trust facts. Not he said, she said.
OK, but what about he said, she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she she said?
How many women have to come forward before idiots stop denying the allegations? The evidence is already damning.
Attorney George Gowen asked in a motion filed in federal court on Wednesday to keep under seal records from the case brought by Andrea Constand, who alleged Cosby tricked her into consuming drugs before he sexually assaulted her.
Gowen wrote that Cosby had explained in a previous filing that “his embarrassment at the release of the discovery motions — deposition excerpts about sex, money, health, and marriage — would be severe.”
Embarrassment. He’s worried about being embarrassed.
There’s no way of stating rape play is acceptable without implying that rape is somehow desirable or sexy. Why would you want to simulate it, if you didn’t think so?
Australia’s only sexual assault network specifically for Aboriginal women has run out of money.
Hey Sis, We’ve Got Your Back is a groundbreaking program that has been working to combat sexual violence against Indigenous women.
The program receives no government funding.
Up until now it has relied on private donations but the money has finally run out.
The first Indigenous woman elected to the New South Wales Parliament, Linda Burney, said it was astounding that the organisation was not getting the support it needed.
“The ‘Hey Sis’ program is absolutely what you need in Aboriginal communities, it’s Aboriginal-owned, Aboriginal-run, run by women who have walked in the shoes of the women that they’re working with,” she said.
Dixie Link Gordon and Ashlee Donahue are the co-creators of Hey Sis and both are survivors of domestic violence themselves.
These women suffer in silence because there’s nothing else for them. They don’t have a way out. She’ll probably go to hospital more times than not, that’s why the statistics are so high. Melissa Wellington The program works by identifying the trusted aunty figures, who are the go-to people for women in their communities suffering sexual assault and violence.
“In every town and every community, there’s an aunty that everyone will run to,” Ms Donahue said.
“There’s one family or one person where they say on a Saturday our lounge room will be full of young people and that’s who I run to, Aunty Beryl over there, you know.”
Hey Sis provides a support network for these aunties and offers them training and mentoring.
In two years, they held 10 forums in communities around NSW and built up a network of 200 aunties.
one thing that really pisses me off is men thinking that being ‘falsely accused’ of rape or being outed as a john is worse than being raped. they mean that the reputation of a male is worth more than the emotional/physical health of a female.
one of the core beliefs of misogynist men is that all women secretly desire to be raped. the main ‘harm’ of rape is therefore how it hurts the man who ‘owns’ the raped woman (husband/father/brother/etc): in lots of places rape victims are still executed for dishonouring their families
i’m not sure why they believe women want to be raped, but i think it’s about naturalising men’s desire to rape women
Pretty much ^this.
Ok so what I’m getting from this misogynist poster is that:
1. Women don’t like being raped because it doesn’t benefit us. That the issue with rape is not violation, violence and trauma but that we don’t get anything out of it. (I thought sex was supposed to be mutual)
2. Rape is just ‘inserting an object‘ into a woman’s body as if you could compare rape to changing tampons.
3. It is somehow wrong for women to want respect and women not wanting rape is entitlement.
4. That women are ‘princesses‘ for having relationships with men or just for existing
5. Apparently women hate rape because it is like insulting the crown because they are ‘princesses’ (les majeste).
6. That women are commodities.
7. That men treated women like ‘princesses‘ before this centuries (he might want to read a history book).
Kind of weird how some feminists will go out of their way to tell people that women enjoy doing porn, while the porn industry makes no attempt to hide the damage that they do. Pornhub and other mainstream sites literally have sub-genres dedicated to female porn-stars having anxiety attacks and breakdowns. There are entire websites devoted to “behind the scenes” footage of girls breaking down and crying. The porn industry proudly profits of the fact that many of the women in porn come away traumatized. It’s a sad day for our movement when some of the industry’s biggest defenders are calling themselves feminists.
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