It’s called coercive reproduction and is punishable by law.
They don’t actually “like” condomless though. What they like is having condomless sex with someone who said no and thinks they are wearing a condom. The pleasure comes from tricking a woman into thinking she’s having protected sex when they’re not. So monsters like him won’t go and find themselves a partner who enjoys condomless sex. That’s no fun. Consent is not fun at all for them. They’ll keep on finding women they can rape instead.
So what they need to do is go shove their face and genitals into a vat of acid. That’s what rapists deserve.
Reblogging mainly for the above commentary because that is spot. Fucking. on.
It’s called coercive reproduction and is punishable by law.
They don’t actually “like” condomless though. What they like is having condomless sex with someone who said no and thinks they are wearing a condom. The pleasure comes from tricking a woman into thinking she’s having protected sex when they’re not. So monsters like him won’t go and find themselves a partner who enjoys condomless sex. That’s no fun. Consent is not fun at all for them. They’ll keep on finding women they can rape instead.
So what they need to do is go shove their face and genitals into a vat of acid. That’s what rapists deserve.
Reblogging mainly for the above commentary because that is spot. Fucking. on.
That’s because that person thinks that courts of law are perfect and justice is always done, so you should always assume all men are perfectly innocent until they are convicted by the courts, and in all other cases, trying to protect yourself by being aware of which men are dangerous or not is somehow discriminating against men.
Because men think it’s sexism if we make an effort to protect ourselves from predators, all the while they go out of their way to make sure predators are as protected as possible.
This piece is from a book called “The Other Side of Silence,” published in 1994, about accounts by real people on their experiences with non-stranger rape. In it, this man looks back at his college years and reflects on what he now realizes to be rape, even if he is not the “stranger in a dark alley” type of rapist.
In many ways, he fits the profile of Dr. David Lisak’s “undetected rapist”- the seemingly ‘nice guy’ who premeditates and plans his attack, looks for the most vulnerable victim, uses alcohol as a weapon, isolates her, and then uses psychological weapons such as ‘manipulation’ and power to wear her down. He does not however, seem to be a serial rapist. Do you think he has reformed?
Arguably, the worst bit is his free admission that he has difficulty feeling guilt, and that he clearly believed that he, a rapist, may confer “irresponsibility” to his victim — especially audacious because he says he knowingly acted with predatory intent and took advantage of a high school child in a social dynamic he knew even then was heavily tipped in his favour. I am not sure what I’m supposed to feel about this except pity for all the women (especially the survivors) who unknowingly interacted with this creature.
By his own admission, he’d manipulated women into sex before Lisa, and very likely afterward, too. Lisa’s just the only one he feels any particular remorse about and he STILL thinks she was “irresponsible”, even after recounting in detail how he had manipulated the situation from the beginning, all because he was bitter about not sleeping with Susan, his best friend.
Fuck this guy. He’s a serial rapist who *may* have stopped raping but is only admitting to one of them and still thinks she’s partly to blame for it. Also have to love the idea that, oh, he raped women because he thought women loved sex as much as men! Hey, guess what, fucker? Women do. Guess what else? Men don’t like being raped either. Also? Liking sex doesn’t mean *with you* or *right now* or *while I’m puking my guts out* or *dude I just met* or even *with a dude at all ever*. Women like sex as much as men do+. Accept that fact. Also, accept that even if ALL women liked sex even more than the most hypersexual men, it STILL wouldn’t mean dudes can fucking rape them to “liberate” them.
That pisses me off so much. Because sexual women *are* repressed. Sexual women *are* shamed for our sexuality. Who created the system where women are shamed and repressed for being sexual? Men. Who upholds it? Men. And then men fucking dare to use the system they created to <strikethrough>rape</strikethrough> “sexually liberate” all women just in case that woman might be sexually repressed and secretly want it. Fuck that! Not all women are sexual, and no woman, sexual or not, wants to have her bodily autonomy violated. Know how women could actually be sexually liberated? If women weren’t shamed for their sexuality! But no, men can’t be bothered to stop that, because then they’d really have to accept that when a woman is anything but demonstrably happy to have sex with him, he has to assume she doesn’t want to, and that means he doesn’t get access to her body.
I mean, look at this fucker. He was convinced Lisa didn’t want to talk to him because he assumed *she* felt guilty about *having sex* with a dude she just met. And he wanted her to know that he didn’t think any less of her. But, like, if that was his go-to thought in spite of his own manipulation, he clearly did have something against women who have sex with men they just met. And why not? That attitude clearly benefitted him. He used it as an excuse to “liberate” multiple women, by his own admission. Every goddamn facet of our society exists for men’s benefit. They use one to excuse another and feign obliviousness to the fact that they created both. It’s like the smile thing. For a woman to smile in public risks a man seeing it, thinking it’s about him, and then to creep on her. So some women learn not to smile in public. What happens then? Men tell us to smile.
This rapist didn’t rape because he was horny or because he “innocently” wanted to help sexually liberate women. He raped because he felt entitled to women’s bodies. Look at how he felt about his own best friend. Maybe by now he’s truly reformed, I don’t know. I doubt it, and I also don’t really care because I don’t forgive sexual assault. But by the time he wrote that? No, he wasn’t reformed. He was clearly getting off on how he’d manipulated that poor girl and was just trying to alleviate his well-deserved guilt.
+ Some people like sex a lot and to have it a lot with a lot of different people. Some like it a lot and to have it a lot, but only with certain people, maybe even only one. Some like it a lot, but not to do it very often, but enjoy having it with a lot of different people. Some like it a lot, but not to do it very often and only with certain people or just one person, or even just with themselves. Some people don’t like it at all, ever, with anyone.
This does not differ between the sexes, no matter what you’ve heard. Yet all women, even women who like sex often with many people, have to fear that any man, even one who doesn’t like sex, might rape them. Because the problem isn’t sex; it’s male entitlement to women’s bodies. All women, their girlfriends, their daughters, their friends, their acquaintances, total strangers. All women.
I think it telling that what he calls her irresponsibility was Lisa trusting her sister and her sisters friends.
David Becker, 18, allegedly sexually assaulted two women while they were asleep. He was charged with two counts of rape and one count of indecent assault and battery, he will receive just two years of probation. And if he doesn’t violate probation — the long term consequences will be even more lenient.
A woman was taking a shower. When she came out and entered her bedroom she saw a man by the window. His arm was in her bedroom through the open window. He was holding an Iphone and taking pictures. When she saw him he ran away and she called the cops. She described the man to the cops and they recognised him because of the unusual shape of his beard. They had arrested him not too long ago for driving without a permit.
The next day the cops went to his house. They took his phone, his computer and memory cards. Turns out the man had thousands of pedopornographic photos on his computer, downloaded from the internet. Thousands. He also had photos and videos of women, recorded and taken without their consent, thousands of them. In their bathroom, bedroom, undressing, on the toilets, in the changing room, in their garden by the pool. Intimate moments. A lot of them were totally naked when they were photographed. There was also a video of a couple having sex filmed through a door not properly locked. The man was inside their house, hiding, when he recorded them. There were also photos he took of children in public squares.
The cops tried to identify the women as quickly as possible. Some of his friends recognised themselves in the pictures. Some co-workers too. And a lot of neighbours.
In just about a week 30 women had decided to press charges.
The man lives in my town. Near me. Something to think about.
I remember when I was a kid I was told the story of one of my parent’s friend, a young woman, who was cleaning her kitchen with the windows opened when a man jumped inside and raped her.
I just feel sick and disgusted and unsafe. Even in their home women are unsafe. When it’s not their husbands abusing them it’s some random strange man. I understand why my mother was worried for me when I moved in my new appartement on the first floor with the little garden. “Be careful, anybody can come in… Why don’t you find some place else ?”. Yep. Maybe I should sacrifice my comfort and happiness to protect myself from men.
Just came across this on Quora :
Anonymous
Tl;dr my step-brother is a pervert
(I am female)
When
I was about 13 years old, my step-brother (about a year and a half
younger) tried to hide his i-pod in the bathroom and film me while I
was undressing to take a shower. I found the phone after getting out,
deleted the footage, and left it on the counter. I did not confront him.
I was shaking and breathing very hard for the next half hour as I hid
in my room and composed myself. I was paranoid every time I undressed in
the bathroom after that and throughly checked to make sure he didn’t
try again.
I am now almost 16, about a month
ago I was using the toilet in the same bathroom when I noticed a shadow
through the half inch crack I had left in the door from not fully
latching it. Through it i could see that he was trying to film me, using
the reflection in the mirror. I don’t know if he was successful, but
again, I could not bring myself to confront him. I thought before that
it was a one time thing, just ‘boys being boys’ right?
But now it has continued. I was shaken again.
Now,
I always latch the door fully before using the bathroom, I still hear
him and see his shadow under the door as he approaches almost every time
I go to use it, I am extremely paranoid. When I take a shower, I latch
the door, undress, wrap myself fully in a towel, then crack the door
open to let the steam out (we have a small bathroom so this is
necessary). I then enter the shower (still wrapped) remove the towel and
throw it on the floor, this way he can’t spy on me.
I
feel as though I can never tell anyone this because if my parents found
out it would divide our family. I don’t want to bring chaos, I
experienced, and still experience enough of that in my family life. If I
were to confront him it would only make it worse. I don’t want to tell
even my closest friends, it’s just too screwed up and I’m afraid they
would tell someone else. At this point I’ve accepted it, I have ways to
deal with it.
Lately he has been talking to me
more than usual, we were only really close when we were very young, and
since he began this behavior I have distanced myself even more. I
thought maybe by talking to him more he would see me more as human and
less as an object he can do what he likes with, it hasn’t worked so far.
The worst part is knowing that my childhood friend and playmate is in
some way a pervert, I do not know why he feels it is ok, but he
justifies it somehow. He is perfectly normal in every other way and acts
very casual around me, I don’t think he has any idea I know.
Today a 30 year old man from from Edmonton, Alberta, Canada uploaded a video titled “high school girl” to Fetlife (a social networking side for people with a fetish or interests in kink or BDSM) where he sexually abuses a drunken high school girl (which is a grounds for consent violation). It also seems extremely likely that this video was not posted on the website with her consent either (another ground for a consent violation). I don’t support Fetlife, so I (fortunately) couldn’t watch the video, but the comment section makes it clear that this young girl is VERY intoxicated (slurring speech, eyes rolling into the back of her head etc.). As well as the fact that she’s a high school student. Her age is guessed between 16 and 18 years old (with debate going on wether she just passed the 18 year old mark). The age of consent in Canada is 16, however: it is 18 in case of “prostitution, pornography or in a relationship of authority, trust or dependency.” Age difference and difference in power are mentioned as well.
But regardless of her age: this is an example of sexual abuse and sexual exploitation, as well as what we today classify under the term “revenge porn”. This filmed abuse made it into the Kinky & Popular section on Fetlife, meaning it is a popular video. I don’t know if the popularity is because she is so young or because a lot of people are commenting to call the perpetrator out. I sincerely hope the latter.
Fetlife has a long track record of failing survivors of sexual abuse (naming abusers is forbidden by the TOS), as has the kink community in general. It is important that the world knows what happens before Fetlife takes the video down, bans this rapist and we never hear from it again, or perhaps on the news one day, after a few more victims. As a long time member of the kink community I want to speak up and hold perpetrators like this man accountable. When are we going to get justice? I don’t care about the morality of doxxing. The perpetrator tries to defend himself by denying the seriousness of his crime and claiming the girl just passed the age of 18. This indicates that the person behind the profile is not a fake. Also: most fakes would probably not use pictures of such a mediocre-looking man. 😉
So… tumblr, make me proud. If nobody acts in instances of injustice, I guess we have to get the justice ourselves.
Sources:
Link to video. Page blocked by Fetlife login, video blocked by paywall, CONTENT WARNING for sexual and violent content. Don’t watch the video, just read the comments. The girl has privacy. 18+/21+ ONLY: https://fetlife.com/users/5104053/videos/552343
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