Tag: sexual objectification

militant-tendency:

“Feminists fuck better.” Please stop. Men still hate you. “Watch me smash patriarchy while reverse cow-girlin’ you.” He still thinks you’re a bitch. “I only fuck feminists.” Thanks for letting me know nothing’s really changed. “Feminists can be sexy and cute!” I don’t care for mollifying feminism; you’re only trying to make it palpable for men. “Some porn stars are empowered by porn!” Individual empowerment doesn’t speak for macro-social repercussions of the very same industry; the majority of actresses in pornography go through shootings with the help of alcohol and drugs in order to numb the physical and mental abuse they suffer. Much of your individualistic understanding of empowerment and agency is very much complicit with patriarchal violence. So. 

I swear to god I will lose my mind if I hear the “sex sells” fallacy one more time. Sex does not sell. If sex sold, we would see penises where we see boobs. Naked men would be on everything that naked women are on. Sex isn’t what they’re selling you. They’re selling you an impossible, pornographically fueled misogynistic idea of the perfect woman.

(via menstruate)

FUCKING THANK YOU

(via fozmeadows)

They are selling women.

(via goodbyesocialconstructs)

I love women,” coming from a man, almost always means “I love when women please me,” “I love to imagine fucking women,” “I love to jack off to women’s pornified bodies,” “I love women who don’t challenge me in a way that makes me uncomfortable,” or “I love the idea of women.

Meghan Murphy, “‘Skinny’ or ‘curvy,’ our bodies are not our own: Why the ‘No More Skinny’ campaign doesn’t help“ (via feministcurrent)

my-sexuality-is-not-for-sale:

imnotreallyherecheckagainlater:

“Pain is an essential part of the grooming process, and that is not accidental. Plucking the eyebrows, shaving under the arms, wearing a girdle, learning to walk in high-heeled shoes, having one’s nose fixed, straightening or curling one’s hair – these things hurt.

The pain, of course, teaches an important lesson: no price is too great, no process too repulsive, no operation too painful for the woman who would be beautiful.

The tolerance of pain and the romanticization of that tolerance begins here, in preadolescence, in socialization and serves to prepare women for lives of childbearing, self-abnegation, and husband-pleasing. The adolescent experience of the “pain of being a woman” casts the feminine psyche into a masochistic mold and forces the adolescent to conform to a self-image which bases itself on mutilation of the body, pain happily suffered, and restricted physical mobility.

It creates the masochistic personalities generally found in adult women: subservient, materialistic (since all value is placed on the body and its ornamentation), intellectually restricted, creatively impoverished. It forces women to be a sex of lesser accomplishment, weaker, as underdeveloped as any backward nation. Indeed, the side effects of that prescribed relationship between women and their bodies are so extreme, so deep, so extensive, that scarcely any area of human possibility is left untouched by it.

Men, of course, like a woman who “takes care of herself”. The male response to the woman who is made-up and bound is a learned fetish, societal in its dimensions…

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The meaning of this analysis of the romantic ethos surely is clear. A first step in the process of liberation (women from their oppression, men from the unfreedom of their fetishism) is the radical redefining of the relationship between women and their bodies. The body must be freed, liberated, quite literally: from paint, girdles and all varieties of crap. WOMEN MUST STOP MUTILATING THEIR BODIES AND START LIVING IN THEM.

Perhaps the notion of beauty which will then organically emerge will be truly democratic and demonstrate a respect for human life in its infinite, and most honorable, variety.“

– Andrea Dworkin, Woman hating pg 115-116

Women and masochism